Have you heard about the new Lifetime series, Pretty Wicked Moms? Well, this is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of the show.
If you like reality TV, you’ll love this show! It’s based in the South, as in Hot-lanta, with a group of rich, young moms, trying to keep up with their appearances, their Elizabeth Arden make-up, who’s wearing what, & their social calendar! All while raising their little ones & trying to stay married. All of them of course having some issues with their lives, while judging all the others & their friends. It’s she said vs. she said. Some people might call it their guilty pleasure. Here’s a sneak peek into the series of Pretty Wicked Moms:
For this post, I was asked to write about a time I felt like I was being judged as a mom.
When I thought about that, knowing it was something I would never talk about on my own, I almost declined. But the truth is, we’ve ALL have experienced it. Some more than others, some might feel they experience this all the time. Being honest with the subject & all of you…it has certainly happened to me!
When I had my oldest, I was very eager to try to do all the things that the “first time mommy” does with their one & only child. We did the playdates, we joined some mommy circles, we joined a little gym, we would meet other mommies at the park for lunch – etc. All of that was pretty much a great experience at the time. Being social & having playdates, I thought I was doing all the right things that I was “supposed” to be doing. Fast forward about a year & a half later…I was pregnant with the twins. For the record, I had a great pregnancy with the twins. I carried them full term. But I knew I needed to reduce my schedule & back out of many things that I had normally done with my oldest. THAT’S when some of the judging started for me. I knew in my heart I was doing what I needed to be doing for my pregnancy & for our family, but that didn’t make the questions of “What about Graham (my oldest)…what are you doing for him?” comments any easier. Also, I had to decline many party invitations & events. As we all know those 1st birthdays & all the other birthday parties are so important when you’re the actual mother of the said birthday child. But the thing is, when you aren’t the said parent of the birthday child, you realize you need to prioritize & pick & choose the outings you do take when you’re carrying twins. It all became a social backlash on me & the decisions I was supposedly making for Graham. I heard many times, “You’ve gotta make your mind up now, that you can keep doing all of this(?) for Graham’s sake.” “Graham will suffer from all these great experiences as a child, if you keep him away from social gatherings.” Now of course, looking back at those comments, I can say those “friends” were just people. They really didn’t matter. But those comments sure did at the time!
Now truth be told, I don’t have a “full” social calendar, I’m a pretty simple mom, now. Ever since the pregnancy of the twins, I have shied away from many invites. My husband travels with his job. He is typically home just 2 nights out of the week & I don’t have family close by. So that leaves me, myself & I to run our household, take care of the kids, meals & all the other inbetweens.
So this is what it looked like when we would go out in the early days:
